tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10556933.post6188104916363802362..comments2023-03-27T05:52:15.427-05:00Comments on Alice in Wonderland: Stay-at-Home Moms and Working MomsAlice in Wonderlandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11566311260826920486noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10556933.post-26860641840145584022012-05-31T23:37:03.085-05:002012-05-31T23:37:03.085-05:00Obviously, I'm seeing your post rather late, b...Obviously, I'm seeing your post rather late, but thought I'd throw in. My take is that either way, your kid will probably be fine. Seeing mothers work is good, and having mom at home is good. <br /><br />In my case, my work burnout hit at exactly the point when my kid started indicating she needed a lot more from me than she was getting on evenings and weekends. I stayed home with her starting when she was almost three, and -- job market being what it is, plus we adapted, painfully, to life on one income -- here she is almost five. <br /><br />IMHO, the toll either working or staying home takes is on the mom, not the child. It's exhausting to work and then parent and then work after your kid goes to sleep. But it's also exhausting to spend all of your waking hours with your kid, especially after they hit 3. (That it's demoralizing sometimes and doesn't come with a paycheck also is hard.) <br /><br />Having done both, I think working outside the home is easier. There is more juggling and time management difficulty (and illness is a nightmare), and you have to offload more tasks (cleaning, cooking, shopping) to other people, but the perk is that you get time every day when you are a grownup around other grownups and that time is invaluable. <br /><br />Even that said, my kid did benefit from having me at home at that particular time. She needed a lot of work on executive control, and that is what I did. It was hard and if you read my back posts, I almost went crazy, but it ultimately helped her a lot. So there's that.Attorney at Largehttp://attorneyatlarge.usnoreply@blogger.com