Showing posts with label The Art of the Blogue. Show all posts
Showing posts with label The Art of the Blogue. Show all posts

Friday, October 13, 2017

What's a Mom Blogger to Do?

I've been finding it really hard to blog lately.

Partly it's because my free-time has shrunk to nothing ever since I picked up a part-time job a few weeks ago.

And partly it's because I've lost my voice.

They say blogging is easiest when you clearly know for whom you are writing.  Who is your "audience"?

I've always assumed it was my close friends, but now I'm aware that Judah may one day stumble upon these pages.  And that thought fills me with terror.

And shuts my virtual mouth.

On the inside, Judah is exactly like me.  I know his every thought before he speaks it.  I understand his every eyebrow raise and nose wrinkle.  I have a Vulcan mind meld with my inner mini-me.  Words are entirely unnecessary.

And I know what he would think as he reads these entries. (And being already 7, he can actually read them all).

He would ignore all the references to love and joy, and dwell only in the dark places.  He would feel betrayed that I shared his thoughts (however slight and trivial) with others without his permission.  He may never forgive me.

So what's a mom blogger to do?

Damn myself further with another privacy-violating entry?

Take down this blog and make sure it never again sees the light of day?

Share only things that would be unobjectionable?

But then I couldn't share my favorite things - like how 2 days ago I caught Judah standing in front of the bathroom mirror, with only his undies on, flexing and posing.  How I reminded him, "brush your teeth! It's time for bed."  And how, without a moment's hesitation or thought, in all seriousness, he replied "but I'm practicing my ninja poses and counting my abs."

He can't wait to achieve the "six pack."

My big kid - the end of a blog era!
***p.s. With great resignation and reluctance, I took down the perfect picture of the kids posing in their undies and replaced it with the totally non-embarrassing and inoffensive picture above.  Because Judah.  (And child porn web crawlers.)

Saturday, September 14, 2013

Unstucking

Lately I've fallen into a blogging black hole.

It's funny how sometimes I can't seem to write fast enough--ideas for posts pouring out of my ears.  And other times, like now, I can't be bothered to lift a single finger and type a single letter.

The only way to break out of a blogging funk, I find, is to just write.  The only way to get unstuck is to just type.  Without this perfunctory flexing of the metacarpals, I find that everything soon calcifies and a once somewhat healthy blog becomes pretty much extinct.  You turn around and realize...hmmm...I haven't written a new post for 4 weeks...and then 4 months...and then why bother anymore.

Sometimes the attempt to have a nice coherent blog entry pretty much obliterates the fun of blogging.  So to heck with that today.  Here's a random list of stuff that...well, is just random:

--I've been on a Cheryl Strayed kick lately.  Just finished Wild and Tiny Beautiful Things.  She's an amazing writer and her immense humanity and wisdom shines through in every sentence (but I definitely don't agree with everything she says).  I think I might buy Tiny Beautiful Things in hardcopy (everything I read is on kindle since the only time I have to read is while nursing) just so I can highlight phrases and read some passages over and over again.

--Noah is 8 months today.  We're finally digging ourselves out of a deep dark hole of baby care.  Most wonderfully he's now on a very predictable schedule.  He takes 2 naps at the same time every day and eats solids like a beast.  Oh how I love predictability.

--Judah has become an aggressive alpha male monster.  Everything that comes out of his mouth is about killing, hating, fighting, cutting off heads, etc.  I fear I'm raising the next great American sociopath.  And the tantrums.  They are stronger and more frequent than ever.  Terrible Threes, here we come!

--I just started watching Season 1 of Breaking Bad.  Fascinating.  Psychologically fascinating.

That is all.

Monday, February 13, 2012

There's that blog list again...

Yay!  I finally took the time to figure out how to add a blog list to my blog.  Man, I'm such a procrastinator.

You know, I really love reading other people's blogs, but sadly people don't really blog much anymore.  It used to be all the rage in 2005, but now, not so much.  It's time I branch out and look for new, fresh blogs that are still active.  What blogs do people like out there?

In other news, today is Judah's 18 month old birthday.  Why does 6 months feel like an entire year?  Because the boy is waaaaay too active. Even with a fever and eye-infection (as pictured here) he can't stop exploring.


Happy Half-Birthday to my wiggly, squiggly, button-pushing, squawking, walking, busy-bee! Heaven help your poor, tired mother as you enter the thick of the toddler years!

Thursday, December 31, 2009

The Year of Living Unremarkably?

Recently, the spouse and I watched Julie and Julia, about a thirty year old aspiring writer in New York whose life was going nowhere, until she decided to blog about cooking all of Julia Child's recipes in one year.


The blog took off, Julie got a book deal, and now a movie! Modern fairy tale ending.

It seems all you need to make it big is a kooky idea that takes about a year to implement and *poof* you too can get a book deal and possibly a movie!

Like this lady who decided to read one book a day for 365 days. She's now been tapped to write a book about her experiences.


Or the guy who lived a year with 'zero carbon-footprint'.

Or the guy (A.J. Jacobs) who 'lived biblically' for a year--what the heck does that mean anyway. I guess he was uber-kosher, or something.



A.J. Jacobs, incidentally, is a freaking gimmick genius because he's struck lightning not once, but TWICE. He's also the author of The Know It All, the book about him reading the entire 32 volumes of the Encyclopedia Britannica.


With the dawn of the new year, it really makes me wonder: What gimmicky thing can I do for a year, blog about, and maybe never have to work my day job again?

Um...so far I came up with:

My Year of Mediocre Homecooking and the Occasional Take-Out

My Year of Watching One to Two TV Shows a Day

The 365 Corporate Slave

365 Outfits, Some of Which Are Repeated Often
(Actually, there is this one girl who only wore black dresses for a whole year, so this is not far off the mark!)

A Tattoo A Day (The spouse would not like this, or its corollary--A Piercing A Day).

The 'M'Eat-It-All (I will eat one different species of animal a day. We quickly move from the familiar (beef, pork, poultry) to the exotic (cat, dog, mouse, squirrel, horse, glurp...pardon me, I just threw up a little in my mouth).

????

This is proving much harder than it appears...I guess I won't be saying goodbye to my day job anytime soon. Sigh.

Saturday, June 20, 2009

Deep Cleansing Breath

I feel like I've just done the blog equivalent of yoga.

Took a deep breath in and...

Exhaled all the old blogs that weren't posting much:
  • Not So Angry Asian Woman

  • The Seoul Diaries

  • Infinity8Ball

  • My Friend since 2nd Grade

  • Photographer Deviant


  • And inhaled more blogs (and sites) that were posting plenty:
  • Wade's World

  • Following the Light

  • Las Recessionistas

  • We Need to Be Friends in Real Life

  • Eye Candy

  • Not Paid to Look Good

  • Gawker

  • Brain Rot

  • ATL

  • Kristof

  • NY

  • LA

  • DC

  • SF

  • SJ


  • May the joy of blogging abound in guilty and not-so-guilty pleasures for the harmonious entertainment of all mankind.

    Namaste.

    Friday, June 19, 2009

    The Killing Fields

    I'm on a murder spree and it feels too good to stop.

    The words of an old granny talking about disinheriting her thankless relatives in John Grisham's The Rainmaker comes to mind: "Cut, cut, cut!"

    I'm purging the fat, cutting the grease, bleeding the bulge...

    I'm taking more blogs off my blogroll.

    Next up: bloggers that have not posted more than 2 entries per month, on average, for the last six months (Dec-May).

    Wednesday, June 17, 2009

    The Sound of Blogs Dying

    A few weeks back I was thinking about how personal blogs were a dying breed and then came accross this article a few days later in the NYTimes which confirmed my suspicions.

    Blogs are dead and dying.

    And it's time to purge my blogroll. In the next few days I'm going to remove all blogs from my sidebar that haven't posted in the last 6 months. (Post now! It's not too late to save yourself!)

    And despite the odds, I'm gonna try my darndest to find new ones. (Cuz I need entertainment at work!)
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    Blogs Falling in an Empty Forest

    By DOUGLAS QUENQUA

    “HI, I’m Judy Nichols. Welcome to my rant.”

    Thus was born Rantings of a Crazed Soccer Mom, the blog of a stay-at-home mother and murder-mystery writer from Wilmington, N.C. Mrs. Nichols, 52, put up her first post in late 2004, serving up a litany of gripes about the Bush administration and people who thought they had “a monopoly on morality.” After urging her readers to vote for John Kerry, she closed with a flourish: “Practice compassionate regime change.”

    The post generated no comments.

    Today, Mrs. Nichols speaks about her blog as if it were a diet or half-finished novel. “I’m going to get back to it,” she swears. Her last entry, in December of last year, was curt and none too profound. “Books make great gifts,” she began, breaking a silence of nearly a month.

    Like Mrs. Nichols, many people start blogs with lofty aspirations — to build an audience and leave their day job, to land a book deal, or simply to share their genius with the world. Getting started is easy, since all it takes to maintain a blog is a little time and inspiration. So why do blogs have a higher failure rate than restaurants?

    According to a 2008 survey by Technorati, which runs a search engine for blogs, only 7.4 million out of the 133 million blogs the company tracks had been updated in the past 120 days. That translates to 95 percent of blogs being essentially abandoned, left to lie fallow on the Web, where they become public remnants of a dream — or at least an ambition — unfulfilled.

    Judging from conversations with retired bloggers, many of the orphans were cast aside by people who had assumed that once they started blogging, the world would beat a path to their digital door.

    “I was always hoping more people would read it, and it would get a lot of comments,” Mrs. Nichols said recently by telephone, sounding a little betrayed. “Every once in a while I would see this thing on TV about some mommy blogger making $4,000 a month, and thought, ‘I would like that.’ ”

    Not all fallow blogs die from lack of reader interest. Some bloggers find themselves too busy — what with, say, homework and swim practice, or perhaps even housework and parenting. Others graduate to more immediate formats, like Twitter and Facebook. And a few — gasp — actually decide to reclaim some smidgen of personal privacy.

    “Before you could be anonymous, and now you can’t,” said Nancy Sun, a 26-year-old New Yorker who abandoned her first blog after experiencing the dark side of minor Internet notoriety. She had started it in 1999, back when blogging was in its infancy and she did not have to worry too hard about posting her raw feelings for a guy she barely knew.

    Ms. Sun’s posts to her blog — www.cromulent.org, named for a fake word from “The Simpsons” — were long and artful. She quickly attracted a large audience and, in 2001, was nominated for the “best online diary” award at the South by Southwest media powwow.

    But then she began getting e-mail messages from strangers who had seen her at parties. A journalist from Philadelphia wanted to profile her. Her friends began reading her blog and drawing conclusions — wrong ones — about her feelings toward them. Ms. Sun found it all very unnerving, and by 2004 she stopped blogging altogether.

    “The Internet is different now,” she said over a cup of tea in Midtown. “I was too Web 1.0. You want to be anonymous, you want to write, like, long entries, and no one wants to read that stuff.”
    Richard Jalichandra, chief executive of Technorati, said that at any given time there are 7 million to 10 million active blogs on the Internet, but “it’s probably between 50,000 and 100,000 blogs that are generating most of the page views.” He added, “There’s a joke within the blogging community that most blogs have an audience of one.”

    That’s a serious letdown from the hype that greeted blogs when they first became popular. No longer would writers toil in anonymity or suffer the indignities of the publishing industry, we were told. Finally the world of ideas would be democratized! This was the catnip that intoxicated Mrs. Nichols. “That was when people were starting to talk about blogs and how anyone could, if not get famous, get their opinions out there and get them read,” she recalled. “I just wanted to post something interesting and get people talking, but mostly it was just my sister commenting.”
    Many people who think blogging is a fast path to financial independence also find themselves discouraged. Matt Goodman, an advertising executive in Atlanta, had no trouble attracting an audience to his self-explanatory site, Things My Dog Ate, which included tales of his foxhound, Watson, eating remote controls, a wig and a $400 pair of Prada shoes.

    “I did some Craigslist postings to advertise it, and I very quickly got an audience of about 50,000 viewers a month,” he said. That led to some small advertising deals, including one with PetSmart and another with a company that made dog-proof cellphone chargers. Mr. Goodman posted a video of his dog failing to destroy one.

    “I guess the charger wasn’t very popular,” he said. “I think I made about $20” from readers clicking on the ads. He last updated the site in November.

    Mr. Jalichandra of Technorati — a blogger himself — also points out that some retired bloggers have merely found new platforms. “Some of that activity has gone to Facebook and MySpace, and obviously Twitter is a new phenomenon,” he said.

    Others simply tire of telling their stories. “Stephanie,” a semi-anonymous 17-year-old with a precocious knowledge of designers and a sharp sense of humor, abandoned her blog, Fashion Robot, about a week before it got a shoutout in the “blog watch” column of The Wall Street Journal last December. Her final post, simply titled “The End,” said she just didn’t feel like blogging any more. She declined an e-mail request for an interview, saying she was no longer interested in publicity.

    As for Ms. Sun of Cromulent.org, she has made peace with being public. She has a new blog, SaladDays.org, where she keeps her posts short and jaunty, not personally revealing; mostly, she offers up health and diet tips, with the occasional quote from Simone de Beauvoir.

    What is she after this time around? In person, she was noncommittal, but that night she sent a follow-up e-mail message.

    “To be honest, I would love a book deal to come out of my blog,” she wrote. “Or I would love for Salad Days to give me a means to be financially independent to continue pursuing and sharing what I love with the world.”

    Saturday, May 16, 2009

    Say hello to my little friends...

    It seems like everyone has a blog these days--celebrities, publications, professors...

    But ironically it also seems that the era of the personal blog--the little, unknown Joe Schmoe blogger--is coming to its demise.

    I remember the heyday of the Joe Schmoe blogs--Blogger was all the rage and people were jumping ship from LiveJournal like it was going out of style (cuz it was!). Ah 2003--when my list of blog links was long and yielded many hours of voyeuristic pleasure.

    Now most of those links have been taken down and the ones that are still there reveal cobwebbed sites that haven't been updated for months (even years!)

    What happened? Why have people become so disenchanted with blogging after being seemingly enthralled by it just a few years ago? Is personal expression not all it was cracked up to be? Did they just run out of things to talk about?

    Or did they get a real life?

    For whatever reason, it's a rare thing for me to find new personal blogs to follow. But here's a few I've stumbled across recently (and added to my right-side menu):

    Enjoy 'em before they go the way of all personal blogs...

    Writer, Dieter, Friend

    Cool single gal pal from Boston talks about life in general and exercise and nutrition in particular.








    Angry Asian Man

    Don't know this guy personally, but love that he tries to break Asian stereotypes. But really, can we ever break away from science, math and the pursuit of higher degrees?







    Not So Angry Asian Woman

    Thoughtful commentary on the modern Asian-American female experience and contributing author of a book on the same.








    The Seoul Diaries

    A friend in search of his soul(mate?) in Seoul.